The ability to ask good tarot questions or better tarot questions is so important as you start to advance in your practice and your understanding, especially as you’re taking that leap from tarot beginner into more advanced tarot reader.
First, I want to be absolutely clear that I don’t think that there are really good questions or bad questions.
We’re not going to judge ourselves here.
There is no right way or wrong way to do anything. There’s only YOUR way. There’s no right way or wrong way to learn tarot. There is no right way or wrong way to read tarot. And there is no right way or wrong way to ask tarot questions.
In fact, if YOUR way is all about asking “bad” questions or limiting questions, just do what works for you. But also realize that you may be holding yourself back if you’re asking questions that are problematic.
In this video, I’m going to share all of my tips and tricks for helping you get better quality answers, which really means asking better questions.
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Instead of thinking of these as good or questions or bad questions instead, think of them as helpful or unhelpful questions.
When I’m asking questions of the cards, I’m asking for information. So I want that information to be helpful for me in my life.
What are the characteristics of helpful and good tarot questions?
Good, helpful answers come from good, helpful questions. But what does that look like? Good, helpful information gives you information that you are ready right now to hear and accept.
And if you’re like me and really prefer actionable information, things you can go out and do in the world, then that information is most helpful when it is actionable.
It needs to be new information to you that is not rehashing the same old thing – or at least you need to look at old information in a new way and see it differently. That’s helpful.
That means that bad and unhelpful information or unhelpful questions is information that you refuse to hear, refuse to accept, or try to manipulate. Or it rehashes old information again and again and again.
Be really careful about an answer that confirms information that you already know. This could be helpful, but it could also be that you are reading the cards by interpreting only what you want to see.
In all of your readings, make sure you are trusting your intuition and that quiet voice inside you. Examine yourself and the information. Instead of looking for ways that it’s telling you you’re right about what you think, look for ways that you could be wrong.
What are bad tarot questions?
There are some things that are always unhelpful.
The first is asking questions over and over again. If you ask the same question over and over again, it so unhelpful, especially when you’re expecting a different answer than the cards are giving you.
The other things you need to think about are whether or not you read for divination. So some people are comfortable reading the cards looking for a predictive answer. If that’s you, make sure your questions are leading you in that direction.
If you are someone who is not comfortable with divination, then make sure the questions you’re asking don’t lead you in that direction.
One more thing that works for me is to keep my questions for the most part within my Circle of Control. As an individual, there are only so many things that I can control. There are only five things that you or I have 100% control over, and those are your thoughts, your beliefs, your words, your choices and your actions.
Everything else you might be able to influence or manipulate, but you will not be able to control them. And that includes controlling other people’s choices and actions.
I like to keep my tarot questions within my Circle of Control. So I always ask, “What do I think about this?” or “What do I need to do in this situation?”
I am almost never asking the cards, “What does he think about this situation?” or “What will she do in this situation?”
That is not to say that asking questions outside of a Circle of Control is bad. It’s just that it’s not the type of helpful information that I am looking for. So you need to know what type of information YOU are looking for so that you can frame your question in the correct way.
How do you ask a good and helpful tarot question?
The very first thing you need to do is start with the end in mind. Think about what are you trying to get out of this reading.
Do you want reassurance? If that’s the case completely stay within your Circle of Control.
Or do you want some tarot truth telling? Are you ready for that? You can expand outside of your Circle of Control into your Circle of Influence, but be prepared that the answer might not be what you want to hear.
There is no right way or wrong way. There’s just YOUR way. Except when you are hurting yourself or hurting others.
When you are hurting yourself or when you are hurting others, that is always something to stay away from.
You can only control your own thoughts, words, choices, beliefs and actions. You cannot control those things of others. So do not try to manipulate them and do not try to manipulate the cards.
We can influence events positively or negatively within our Circle of Influence. Trying to influence someone positively within that Circle of Influence is good and we all do it.
Trying to influence with negative energy or “I know better than you” energy is manipulation and it is always harmful.
There are also ways you can manipulate the cards. Tarot will give you answers based on the information and the questions you ask. If you’re asking tarot cards a leading question, the cards are going to give you an unhelpful answer. Do not try to restrict the cards in any way.
Bad and unhelpful questions lead to bad and unhelpful answers. Information that you’re not ready to hear, information you’re not ready to accept, and anything that manipulates the cards or other people is always unhelpful.
Good and helpful information is information that you’re ready and willing to hear and act on.
If you choose to stay within your Circle of Control (your beliefs, choices, thoughts, words and actions), you will almost always be asking a really good and helpful question, assuming you’re ready for the answer.